What Love Isn’t About
LOVE is a word we have long been acquainted to but its meaning remains ever-elusive. I do not really know and understand much of what it is about, but I do have an idea of what it is not about.
Love isn’t about ‘chemistry.’
On the contrary, some people are like North Pole and South Pole who, after a lot of argumentations, agreed to meet halfway at the equator, flattening out bulges of differences. Sometimes, you find someone who seem to be your exact opposite and yet know he/she is your person. Maybe one prefers ballad while the other prefers rock; Maybe one is too loud and outspoken while the other is shy and oversensitive; Maybe one is too optimistic while the other is very skeptic and pessimistic. Sometimes you find someone who doesn’t seem to be the type of person you would want to share an eternity with but you vow to stick together forever anyway.
Perhaps people would see no spark. Perhaps the world guffaws at the idea of you being together. But does that matter? Not as much as what both of you think. Maybe it’s about believing that what you have is right even when others dictate you it’s wrong.
Love isn’t about compatibility.
Love isn’t about the right timing.
Maybe the wrong timing is the perfect timing.
Love isn’t about keeping the object of affection.Not all love leads to commitment and marriage. But does that make it any less real? Not all who had loved won. But does that really make one a loser?Love is not about possession or reciprocity of the same and equal affection. As David Cain said in one of his articles in Thought Catalog, “Love reveals itself when you release your need to have the object of your affection, and see that there’s no reason to make it yours. That it exists at all is enough. To love something is to disappear in its favor — to die to your own interests so that it can be what it is.”
Love does not obligate.
If I am to be asked what love is, I would say it’s about acceptance and change, courage and fear, bliss and suffering. It isn’t about chemistry or right timing or keeping the object of affection. It is not about any of the three but possibly all of these combined.
**originally posted in my old blog http://tinefinityandbeyond.blogspot.com/